Even though I am female (and a straight one at that) I am not a huggy-kissy overly sentimental type. The public at large need not fear me randomly hugging, touching or groping anyone. I generally avoid physical demonstrations of affection whenever possible. I am one of those people who is very sensitive to touch even from people I do know, and I don’t want strange people touching me at all. Maybe I’m just strange but it really creeps me out when people try to touch me in the course of conversation. Please don’t come up behind me and put your hand on my shoulder or even worse, try to grab at my hands. I worked with a guy who was really cool and very nice, but he was a toucher. One day he came up behind me (but I didn’t realize who he was) and put his hand on my shoulder. My instinctive reaction was to elbow the poor guy in the gut before I’d even realized it- a reflexive motion, but still rather mortifying. He meant no malice and I felt really terrible about elbowing him, but I really am squeamish about unauthorized touching. I had the hell beaten out of me way too many times as a child.
My parents weren’t into physical fighting (thankfully) but they are masters of verbal sparring and passive-aggressive revenge. I think the older they get the more they enjoy finding creative ways to piss each other off. Some people are into that. I think it must be what keeps their relationship fresh after almost fifty years. Dad knows he can get a rise out of Mom by failing to flush the downstairs toilet or by leaving his dirty socks on the floor. Mom knows she can piss Dad off by leaving all of her various crap (and she’s virtually a hoarder so it’s everywhere) all over every flat surface in the house. Ad nauseam. Tit for tat, pick for pick. Acck!
At least they aren’t into really odious pastimes, like swinging (that’s a really creepy thought considering their age) or square dancing, or having an ankle biter dog that wears clothes and perfume and goes to the groomer’s once a week, but even so their constant picking and petty fussing is unnerving. I find it unnecessary and annoying. As a child- since I tended to take everything literally- it took me awhile to realize that Mom, even in her manic rages, was not likely to literally rip Dad’s head off no matter how many times she threatened to.
For that she would have needed the chainsaw, and Dad’s the only one I know of who could start that damned thing.
That’s me- pragmatic and practical. It’s what keeps me relatively sane.
Speaking of which, when I get the time I will share my latest and greatest concept in detail. There are people out there like my parents who spend all kinds of time and money on home improvement. I have absolutely no hardware expertise, money to burn, or knowledge of interior design or feng shui or any of that high faluting stuff. But I do know a thing or two about renovating This Old Cougar.
More to come, very soon!